We all seem to be busy nowadays, don’t we? The pace of life is faster, we’re frantically rushing around, trying to get things done, there aren’t enough hours in the day. We all seem to be so busy.
The question is though… Are you really busy?
I want to bite this “Busy” issue off in 3 chunks, by asking you 3 questions; a ‘What?’ a ‘Why?’ and a ‘How?’
Do you know what’s really important to you ?
Do you know what you are all about and what makes you tick?
The decisions you make and the direction your life takes are all controlled by your ‘core values’; they represent everything you are about.
How are you staying young? Eating healthily and taking regular exercise perhaps? Do you know the elixir of life? Well, I have the secret recipe! Honest, I have.
Recently, I had an amazing discussion with someone I love on the subject of dying. Death is a fact of life. It is inevitable. And it seems to me that most people’s lives slowly decay as they get older and their world shrinks, long before the inevitable happens. I don’t want this to happen to me, do you? How do we go on feeling “alive” and stay feeling young?
How are you?
Do you get asked that a lot? And how many times a day do you ask the same question?
It’s a very common question and an interesting one too.
I was at a fabulous Scottish wedding at the weekend, and apart from my wife and the bride, I didn’t know a soul. I took some advice given to me years ago: when meeting new people ask lots of questions but don’t ask… what do you do for a living?
I was asked that question and it made me think that knowingly or not, we are all judging each other. We are making assumptions about each other, sometimes based on very little information. Can you really ‘know’ someone by the clothes they wear, the job they do or the car they drive?
This led me to a thought: how do you measure success?
Whilst on holiday my car was filled up with fuel by a smiley happy chappy. How nice I thought. Then I thought, that’s a good question… what and who fills up your tank?
I’m not talking about the tank in your car. I’m talking about the tank within you. I think we’ve all got a tank of ‘something’ inside us that keeps us going. A tank of ‘energy’… or you could call it a tank of ‘love’.
Do you know what and who nourishes you and fills your tank?
Why question? Now that’s not ‘Why?’ the question, it’s ‘Why question?’ Do you know what I mean? Bear with me, I’ll explain.
When I was a nipper all I did was ask questions at a furious rate. Did you do that too? It must have been so annoying for my Mum & Dad I’m sure. “Why?” “What for?” “What are you doing?” And yes, the big one …“Why should I?”
My son Jack, who was 18 months old at the time ,inspired this question. Just learning to speak, his favourite word was “NO!” That’s it, that’s all he said to absolutely everything. But that’s too negative I thought, he needs to say “Yes” (give me a break, I was still quite new to parenting).
Then I wondered, hey, maybe there is something we can learn here from this determined wee fella.
Do you find yourself saying “Yes” sometimes to things, when actually you want to say “No”?
Have you ever thought you are too negative?
Do you like to be around people who complain all the time and who are negative?, No, of course you don’t, it’s draining isn’t it? But sometimes people continuously whine and whinge without thinking and they don’t even realise they are being negative.
Sure, we all need to let off steam and get stuff off our chest, life’s not perfect and can be crappy at times. But constant whinging and negativity isn’t good for those around you and neither is it good for you.